Fuzzy Boundaries

That invisible line in the sand. That impenetrable wall you place around yourself. Whether you adore boundaries because they represent structure and order or if you see them as black and white limits that don’t allow for flexibility, make sure you are deciding on the proper ‘tension’ you require to live a healthy emotional life.

Firm boundaries help prevent resentment due to feelings of being taken advantage of. Because when this happens the rebel can come out full force, resulting in hurtful things being said or done that may not truly be meant. And on the flip side, too firm a boundary may become so inflexible that it is no longer serving you or the situation.

So, establish your limits, get comfortable with saying no. But also do an inventory on your boundaries occasionally and check in with your gut to see if they still make sense for you.

Because boundaries are a healthy way to make sure unacceptable ‘lines’ are not being crossed. But remember, they not only keep others out, but they also keep you in. So, pay attention to your boundaries. And renegotiate them if they are no longer working for you.