That Thing

Ever stay ‘triggered’ even after the ‘threat’ was gone? Not unusual at all.

A little neuro-nerd info: The limbic system of the brain (this is where fear resides) doesn’t always get the notice that the threat is gone. Once our fear response settles into our brain, it resists the new information that all is well. Instead, it continues to protect us, not wanting to let its guard down, in case of any potential future threat. So that sense of fear just keeps getting reinforced, literally, inside our head.

To retrain the brain, one thing to consider is tiny victories. Set yourself up for successful, small wins. One win may be to simply be brave. Let your brain know that ‘it’s okay.’ It will show the brain that the conclusion it has drawn is really not that accurate. 

Another thing to think about is recognizing the fear but then put it in perspective. It could be as easy as telling yourself, “This is just fear talking. That’s all.” Take a breath. Talk to your brain, using actual words, and then celebrate your bravery.

Your brain is somewhat like a piece of technology that gets stuck in an infinity loop. Back in the day, we might call it the blue screen of death (shout out to all who remember this). If you find yourself in that loop, question it. Ask, “Where is the fear coming from?” “How true is that fear given where I am right now?” “What’s the potential outcome if I give into the fear?” What’s the best-case scenario if I step past the fear?” 

So, go ahead. Feel it. Feel all that fear. And then do that ‘thing’ anyway.