#SorryNotSorry

“Oh, I am so sorry this is happening to you.” “This totally sucks for you.” “So sorry you have to do that.” “No one should have to go through this.” “Really sorry.” Most of us have said something similar, and the sentiment can be exactly what is desired by the person receiving the ‘sorries’ at the time. It’s a way we can verbalize our sympathy for another. And this can be powerful.

But there may be another way to provide ‘power’ to the person experiencing the challenge. What if there was no “I’m so sorry.” What if we simply stood with them with the full knowledge that they can get the situation under control and lean into their own brilliance.

Because, many times, feeling sorry for someone, and expressing that sorrow, hijacks their ability to figure out their ‘stuff’ on their own. And, sometimes, that’s the greatest gift you can give.

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