To Forgive or Not to Forgive

Forgiving someone for a hurt can just be so hard. And that’s putting it rather lightly. It means we must let go of ever receiving a deserved apology. Also, there’s the possibility of being hurt, yet again, from that same person. And let’s not forget the question of justice.

I mean, a sense of justice is a universal idea – knowing no boundaries of culture, race or geographical location. In theory, fairness for all seems honorable. However, holding tight to this concept and demanding it from the world can actually hold us back

Our internal sense of justice is essentially counter intuitive to forgiveness. Because if we find ourselves in this arena, we want everything to be even steven which makes forgiveness much more perplexing.

Wanting the person who wronged you to also be your healer of the wound that they created can be a tall order.

Many times, it can lead to the wounder being wounded by the original wound-ee. And is that really what you are looking for, or are you just looking for a way to come to terms with the wound, releasing it and being at peace.

If that is your true desire, then for you, forgiveness is giving up your desire to wound another in response to being wounded by them. Not easy, but extremely liberating.